Sunday, April 5, 2009
My heart bleed for my friend
My friend told me about his quarrel with gal friend. He said that his gal friend complained that he rather go for his friends' birthday party rather than go her house during a very busy period for my friend. Even though my friend often accompany his gal friend and even went over to her house whenever he wants to see her or send her home after her work. When she is sad or feeling unwell, he will buy things for her and tries to cheer her up. Once he waited 1 hour plus for her at Dhouby Ghaut during times when he is very busy but he did not say to anyone except me. His gal friend always feels that he treat us better than her. But the truth is it never happen at all. He met his friend once because it's his birthday and that friend is his long time buddy(10yrs). On another incident, he met his group of friends during his grandmother in law's funeral. How ironic? On every other ocassions when he tries to squeeze time for her, no one knows. His gal friend does not know where the time for to accompany come from. It simply comes from his own sleeping time, his own entertainment time, including his family and friends time. I believe everybody needs friends. We are warm blooded social animals. My friend does not blame his gal friend for accompanying her family when he wants to meet her. He understands because he loves her. He never complains about her gal friend not being to do this or do that because he loves her. He don't need anything from her as he only needs her company and listening ears when he is feeling low or stressed from work. He tries his best to accommodate everybody in his life but he realised that everybody is in the end unhappy with him. He has forgotten how to love himself. I urged my dear friend, learn to love yourself and do not care so much about other pple's feelings. Only after so, your life will be happier and better. If you love your gal friend, ditch all your friends. You can only have one thing in your life - love. Unless one day, she decides to leave you then you may realise that your world is so empty. My friend is always hoping that his gal friend will understand his stand and stop questioning his love for her. I will urge my friend to buy a calendar and start to jot down every hour that he spent with his gal friend or talk to her over the phone as a measure to prevent over favourtism of friends. There is no room for friends.
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Your Friend's girlfriend loves your friend alot as well. She just gets easily jealous over things. Maybe it's because she feels lonely cox your friend is a busy person..
ReplyDelete-vonnie-
Sounds familiar, yet I cannot pinpoint who is the person. Lol. But then again, there're lots of girls like that.
ReplyDelete(birdy's small bird)
Do I know that person??
ReplyDeleteDoesn't matter,I am still gonna say the same thing;both of them are too immature in theirhandling of the relationship.
The guy should have a mind of his own and not pander to the girl's every whims and fancies;nor should the girl be expected to be number one priority in his life.
I cannot stress this enough;they are still dating and mind you,not even married couples do that,though in this instant,I'm referring to those that are happily married(somewhat of a misnomer since you can be happy or you can be married but you can't be happily married;zzzz,my split personality is rearing itself again....).I am pretty confident that unless they sought this out and act rationally,it's either the gal will leave for a bad boy type who probably treat her like dirt or the guy will just decide enough is enough and walk away a sadded human being....
Orgay,enough of the ramblings of an young-old man....